Twin Flame Runner: A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment style in relationships

Before I start this article,I would wish to quote a saying that goes like this; "Space was just a word made up by someone who was afraid to get too close". Does that pretty much explain the twin flame runner behaviour? A definite YES!! The twin flame runner does everything under the sun to control the intensity of what they feel, sense and intuit towards the chaser. This results in projecting conflicting feelings and deliberate actions to create distance onto the chaser. Since the childhood wounding of the runner is deep, the runner avoids building trusts in relationships, which creates a fear of losing control over the situation and fear of relying on others for emotional support. This very stated lack of emotional support from early childhood years causes emotional suppression, a struggle with empathy in relationships,a deep seated fear of losing independence that in turn creates an occasional narcissistic behaviour which is clearly demonstrated by the runner.

Proceeding to the next segment of how a narcissistic personality disorder is closely linked to dismissive avoidant attachment which is clearly projected by the twin flame runner.

#1 Dismissive avoidants are most certainly,abusive in relationships as they refuse to talk about their

feelings and get testy when one discusses about their feelings towards and to them. Classic case scenario of lack of emotional intimacy.

#2 When one partner gets emotionally dependent on the runner, this triggers fear vulnerability from within and in turn, feeling controlled by the chaser.

#3 The dismissive avoidant showcases volatility in relationships that crop up from a place of fear of abandonment,hence the twin flame runner has a running theme of being in short lived relationships.

#4 Due to their early childhood rejection wounds and inconsistency in care by the parents, the dismissive avoidant project their wounding in the form of criticism of others and guilt tripping, onto the chaser to instill self-doubt onto their fleet of romantic partners.

#5 Dismissive avoidants surround themselves with an aura of power and authority, hence they avoid social settings due to fear of being embarrassed or feeling inadequate.

#6 One of the distinguishing characteristic projected by the dismissive avoidant is the fear of not being good enough,that enables them to create a guard around their personality to avoid authenticity and self expression, which also is a constitutional trait portrayed by the runner.

#7 These individuals will let you be around them, but will not let you in. They tend to avoid strong displays of closeness and intimacy. As soon as things get serious, dismissive/avoidant individuals are likely to close themselves off.

As a result of these and other leftover issues,that the twin flame runner is not conscious of,many highly sensitive males avoid getting into an intimate relationship because they feel unworthy of love. They are able to handle being in a superficial relationship that’s not very important to them more easily. Many in the twin flame relationship call these relationships the ‘karmic’, or ‘karmic partner’. This assumes that they have left-over luggage to work through with that partner from previous lifetimes. That is often not be the case at all. These relationships can be a wonderful place to hide from the intensity of a twin flame relationship. Some women do that too.

All these issues come up to the surface to be transmuted for both twin flames once they have been energetically connected with each other, even if they’re physically apart. However, most men are not in touch with their emotions and their energy very much and are likely not to be into personal growth. Others are very aware of these but shut down as a way of coping. The result is clear. Many twin flame males shut down,deny,and avoid. And females are more likely to blame and judge. But is this how the dynamic should continue?? The answer lies in healing oneself from the ingrained societal conditioning by chakra healing and meditation from core of the base chakra onto the Universal Chakra.