Twin Flame Chaser: An Anxious Attachment Style in relationships

In my previous articles,I have thrown light upon the chaser's perspective in this soul connection dynamic. Today,I will be discussing about the what creates the chaser to become a hopeless craver for attention and love from their divine counterpart. The severe energetic imbalance that is caused between the twin souls is due to the earthly baggage of karma, past hurts, family imprints and genetic negativity, as at some point in time, all chasers have faced deep psychological and energetic wounding in their early childhood years; that someone the chaser loved was about to leave them. This creates a rigorous state of separation anxiety dynamic that translates into an unhealthy and clingy state of attachment patterns in romantic relationships. In clinical psychology is termed as anxious attachment style of love which crops up from a fear based belief system of separation anxiety, simply put, abandonment issues.

Fear based love and healthy love are two ends of the vibrational spectrum in this soulful connection. Fear-based thinking is rooted in negativity and self-preservation, can often hinder personal growth and limit our potential. On the other hand, love-based thinking, characterized by compassion and understanding, empowers us to transcend limitations and create a harmonious world. This brings me to discuss, the next phase of the article, where we will understand what are some anxious attachment personality traits that illustrate the chaser's mindset.

Some attributes that the anxious attachment method of love that are projected on by the chaser include:

#1 Clinginess and constant need for reassurance.

#2 Emotional highs and lows due to rumination and overanalyzing of thoughts and situations.

#3 Constant neediness of contact and support by the runner.

#4 Negative view of self due to childhood programming and traumatic experiences.

#5 Fear of infidelity, cropping up from a place of fear of not being good enough.

#6 Perpetual state of hypervigilance that causes a flight or fight response between the twin flames.

#7 Tendency to overreact to projections of the runner.

#8 Lack of boundaries and lack of respect for the runner,creates an unhealthy attachment pattern creating imbalance in the connection.

The aforementioned projections are clearly red flags in a relationship that causes a severe stir of unhealthy emotions in the mind of the chaser and the runner. Thus, I would like to discuss some mindful methods of coping with and overcoming the anxious attachment style of love in the twin flame journey.

#1 Applying mirror exercises which involves accepting oneself by using positive self-talk and working on healthy self-esteem.

#2 Creating a trustworthy,empathetic and compassionate relationship with oneself and providing a safe space of freedom of being themselves with others.

#3 Provide a comfort seeking behaviour such as journaling,mind mapping;while managing uncomfortable emotions such as neglect,hurt and low self worth.

#4 Creating a safe space of healthy boundaries to respect the runner's need for a time out.

#5 Building confidence in expressing affection, verbally and through non-verbal cues.

#6 Comfortable in dealing with vulnerability by sharing emotions,experiences and fears with one another.

#7 Ability to conduct oneself interdependently; where the individual is content and secure by being alone as well as together.

My two cents while summarizing the article, as we all are aware, a twin flame connection is a mirror of the areas of our personality and soul that need healing. An anxious attachment style of love starts off in early childhood years, where children living with caregivers who are neglectful, abusive,or emotionally unavailable are more likely to develop anxious attachment.

This attachment style can increase risk for anxiety disorders and low self-esteem later in life, and have a negative impact on relationships.

As an adult, one may be able to restructure one's thoughts to help a person move toward a more secure attachment style. This will take a combination of self-awareness, patience, and conscious effort.Working alongside a therapist can also help break the pattern of anxious attachment.