Twin Flames are woundmates: Triggers to eliminate programming fears.

What does a twin flame experience feel like? A sheer near death experience;you cross the street, get hit by a car, go into a black tunnel, see the light, reach the light and meet God. Now, when the divine counterparts attract each other, they attract each other on an energetic frequency from their wounding patterns that have stemmed from their childhood. As mentioned by Janet Chui,a counselor, therapist, artist, and creator of the Self-Love Oracle, "The implicit “savior” role of being among the 144,000 Twin Flames here to raise vibrations on earth satisfies the need of individuals from dysfunctional backgrounds and ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) to find love and belonging, spiritual purpose, recognition, acceptance, power, validation, and value all at once".

The dysfunctional families,due their family programming,have a large imbalance of masculine and feminine energies, faced by these twin souls in their preadolescence years that causes a traumatic wound in the soul that makes these twin flames go out of line of their true essence. All fears and traumas that are faced in adulthood stem from that time.

The family dynamics of twin flames is said to have a borderline narcissistic parenting style. Either one or both the parents of the counterparts have one of the parent's being the codependent and the other parent being a narcissist. Now,one of the divine counterpart's personality; either the divine masculine or the divine feminine exhibits these traits in the dynamic. This is nothing but the shadow side that has to be acknowledged and healed within their personality traits.

Thus,this wires the inner child to cover these triggers in unhealthy reactions that gets the ego into fight response mode that results in anger attacks, crying, sulking, power games and manipulation to state a few. So what does this result into? A clear self-sabotage mechanism to nurture the ego mind by giving into the fear patterns the ego feeds off from to keep the child into a constant state of flight or fight response.

Let us now disentangle a range of wounds that the twin flame counterparts experience across lifetimes or in the current lifetime reincarnated on earth. They are bifurcated into 5 categories:

#1 Guilt Wound - While twin flame runners go through a period of inner conflict, they may also be experiencing remorse for what they did to the chasing twin flame. Not to mention that the runners know what the chaser feels. It is the severe duality of the feelings that mirror one another.

#2 Abandonment Wound - People with abandonment issues continually fear their partner will end the relationship. Due to this fear, they often shy away from relationships altogether. They could date a lot of people, but they don’t allow anyone to get too close.If a soulmate or twin flame constantly keeps their beloved at arm’s length,it could be because of abandonment issues.

#3 Trust Wound - The trust wound amongst higher level soulmates manifests into a fear of speaking the truth in the form of not trusting the connection,questioning the signs and synchronicities of the connection which is all coming from a place of severe low self-esteem.

#4 Neglect Wound - A neglect wound crops up when these twin souls face severe ignorance by their innermost circle that includes, parents, caregivers, teachers since early childhood years that leads them to feel unworthy of love, self image issues that include questioning one's physical appearance critically.

#5 Injustice Wound - This wound is severely amplified during the abandonment stage of the twin flame journey, where the chaser and runner twin flames, both feel blameworthy for taking time out for themselves and their core healing and attaching their self worth to materialistic possessions and mind thoughts.

So what does this push the twin flames to get into? A deep healing process by acknowledging and accepting weaknesses and imperfections that manifest into deep-seated fears. However, twin flames should give themselves a time out to heal their inner child as that is where the magic lies. Thus, this stated acknowledgement,awareness and acceptance creates a ripple effect to move deep self healing, which is an on-going and arduous path.