Detachment and Manifestation:The Key to Law of Attraction

Attachment is giving away your power. Giving away your power means allowing your whole being managed by another person or a situation. The classic saying of "mind over matter" comes into play here, which means that one needs to use the willpower which is directly related to one's emotional capability to overcome problems in life.

What does attachment look like.Some instances that I have encountered are:

#1 Attaching my worth to a person's words and actions.

#2 Attachment to a specific outcome out of fear.

#3 Attachment to an outcome feeling a strong sense of lack.

#4 Attaching to a certain person/thing out of desperation.

#5 Feeling a sense of de-value.

Now, let us infer to the word attachment. How does attachment arise? Whenever there is a sense of deficiency or inadequacy in any gamut of our lives, a sense of attachment arises. Let me share a specimen of my experience. I have been an asthmatic since my early childhood years. Due to this chronic illness, as a child,I had been deprived of all kinds of junk foods. I used to go to birthday parties and family get togethers' where I was not allowed to have aerated beverages, fried food and the works. That feeling of being deprived of consuming certain foods used to make me feel devastated. I used to question myself. "Why can't I have those fries, that chorizo pizza, that coca cola", " Look at the other kids indulging, let me just have a few of the fried crisps over the table, I will be fine".

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In my 20s,this lack of not being able to consume certain foods made me attached to the outcome of overeating unhealthy food,indulging in desserts and not mindfully following a regime. So you see, the lack of deficiency of not being allowed to do something, makes one desperate when you get it.

This is exactly what happens in relationships. Whatever connections we make in our lives are a direct mirror of our own personalities. If you are an empath, you will attract empaths, if you are a spiritual person, you will attract spiritual people and so on.

Throwing in another life changing instance here.I was looking for a job change in the year 2015. I was looking for an HR job with a hefty pay package.My previous workplace was not quite an inclusive work culture oriented company. My boss was extremely dominant to a point that, the result delivery was intended on her own terms and conditions. Also, she was non-receptive to an interactive method of working. it was more of one-way communication like "my firm, my rules". On the other hand, my work personality is that of an independent decision making with a semi-collaborative working style.

Working as an HR Assistant Manager,I used to prepare monthly recruitment sheets, manage my to-do daily tasks linked to the job position closures for the month.

My immediate supervisor used to have an overpowering need for authority and control toward any recruitment closure. Post every lined up interview with a candidate,there was always a criticism-oriented feedback attached to the communication. To add up to this, my supervisor used to ask for a minute-to-minute update on the number of interviews lined up, the status of the candidates, the rolling out of offer letters etc. This was highly overbearing for someone like me and resulted in an outburst. After 11 months of working there, I gave in my resignation and carried out my exit formalities.

The above reference is a classic case scenario that out of desperation of needing a job, I took up a job, only because the compensation offered was fair. However, the longevity lasted only till 7 months. This is how the Universe works. The Universe granted me the manifestation that I put out which was " I want a job that pays well, the salary should be sufficient". The Universe granted me my manifestation- but was I happy with the outcome, the answer is NO!!! My manifestation should have been:

"Dear Universe, provide me a job that enriches my mind, fosters knowledge-wise growth. I should be culturally a right fit and well accepted in the organisation. The job should create a sense of accomplishment and mental satisfaction".

Fast Forward to this day,I have been working as a professor in an international curriculum based university since 6 years. And without a doubt, I can state that the democratic decision making power and the affable work culture has helped me unleash my work potential to the highest calibre. Right now, I work on various modules, head the Literary Club, starting upon the Alumni Cell with additional teaching and learning responsibilities.

The above example was a sneak peek to what exactly happens, when you detach yourself from the outcome you have manifested.

It is right stated by Rachel Carson,"The more clearly we focus our attention on the wonders and realities of the Universe about us, the less taste we shall have for destruction".

Out of fear and desperation, we as human beings settle for less deserving platforms that do not resonate with our higher self objectives.This creates a misalignment and thus, the "tower" moments in our lives occur. Our tendency to underestimate ourselves mainly comes from the lack of self-confidence.

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In order to manifest correctly, we need to have the perseverance and grit to outshine our shortcomings. It just takes that one morning, when you wake up and you are no longer afraid.

To summarise all of the above points, I would just recap on what shall we follow when we are looking to manifest:

#1 Have a clear picture of what you desire from the Universe.

#2 Believe that you deserve that subject of desire i.e you are worthy of what you want.

#3 Let go of fear, worry or any negative connotations attached to your wish fulfillment.

#4 Surrender the need to control the outcome.

#5 Picture the subject of manifestation of it already being yours.

#6 Surrender, only when you believe that what you desire is yours, not prior to the surrender.

#7 Trust in divine timing and do not constantly overthink, when, what, why will the outcome occur in real time.