Father Wounds and a blocked Solar Plexus Chakra- Get mindful and operate from assertiveness.

The term "father wound" is referred to the damage that is done to a child when the father has been absent or been an abusive parent. The absence of a father can be physical absence or emotional absence. Emotionally absent fathers turn daughters into emotionally damaged women,later in life. As a collective, the actions of our ancestors who lived through and carried out all types of natural disasters and diseases created a genetic thought pattern of "survival of the fittest" mindset that assumes there isn't enough room to grow around, so we must overstep onto each other to climb the ladder of success; aka individualism. All this gets buried deep into the child's subconscious mind and thus,becomes a behavioral programming as an adult. It is rightly said that, our soul chooses our immediate family members and such circumstances because they best serve what the soul requires to achieve in this lifetime; matching one's personal belief system that are the soul's imprints across lifetimes.

Simply put, they are "relationship templates",(a relationship template is an unconscious gravitation towards someone or something of their once-traumatized child-self) that enable one to hide and repress our real personality because these templates become a "make believe" that not having those set characteristics would make the child/adult unloved,unseen or unheard. A clear way to point out a person carrying a father wound is when the adult thinks he/she does not matter. This unhealthy father archetype forces adults to come overachievers and strive perfection in all areas of their life.

This very ingrained need to achieve externally makes the wounded adult extremely judgemental and critical of oneself and other around.A father wound that went unhealed and had certain beliefs, get unconsciously downloaded as a pattern into the mother's womb when the child is born. These unreasonable expectations and impossible high standards are set for the children of parents who have father wounds. The solar plexus chakra when blocked manages the roots of unworthiness.

The Solar Plexus Chakra is primarily concerned with our sense of self-esteem and personal power. In terms of the development of the child in its first years the child is attempting to gain control over its body and connect to the earth (First Chakra). Once the child has developed its control over its body, it begins to explore the external world to find out who it is in relation to the world outside. (Second Chakra). The Solar Plexus chakra is where one absorbs and assimilates the experiences of the world. It is here that we digest things, physically, emotionally and mentally. Hence the link between this chakra and the digestive system. The solar plexus chakra is where one begins to develop the concept of self, where one becomes self-conscious.

The solar plexus chakra is the chakra where we judge ourselves and compare ourselves to others. It is the chakra of shame, addiction and self-abuse. If the external world, our parents, teachers and friends all give us little appreciation, care or respect, we begin to feel that there must be something wrong with us. We begin to feel shame. If we are wearing "low self-esteem glasses", everything that happens to us can further compound our feeling of shame. We feel, "I am being punished by a cruel world". Abusive parents often produce abusive children. Alcoholic parents often pass on their sense of shame and hopelessness on to their children. As the children grow older they will seek any escape from this awful gnawing feeling of shame through drugs, drink, anorexia or suicide attempts.

Moving to the next segment of how to heal the Solar Plexus Chakra that in turn will heal the father wounds.

#1 The Solar Plexus Chakra is known to be "The Seat of Personal Power". Taking a walk in sunlight or sitting near a fireplace helps to center the energy of this chakra.

#2 Using certain foods in one's diet such as lemons,turmeric,ginger and rosemary oil creates a confidence boost around the energetic field.

#3 This Chakra is powered by generosity. Hence, by being kind to others, offering a helping hand, complimenting people makes the person feel good and inturn,boosts confidence.

#4 Seeking out new experiences, such as a new hobby,travelling somewhere new, venturing down a different career path,roots confidence in the Solar plexus chakra.

#5 As the solar plexus chakra is said to govern the liver,pancreas and the gallbladder regions of the human body,practising purifying and cleansing breathing exercises regularly such as Kapalbhati,Bhastrika and belly breathing are highly recommended due to their immediate results. Also, it is said that Diabetes is caused by a blocked solar plexus chakra, as Diabetes is caused by suppressed anger.

#6 It is a study that denotes when a fight or flight response is activated,it will slows one's digestive processes so that blood can be conserved for the human brain, a blocked solar plexus chakra causes that. Creative activities such as art, craft, gardening, cooking or other activities such as doing a puzzle, juggling, music, theatre, dancing or simply being absorbed in enjoyable work unclogs this pertinent chakra.

Balancing this chakra, will assist the unhealed adult to stand up fearlessly and fight for what one believes in and set boundaries. The wounded adult will gain an understanding that living in peace and harmony with others is how life it to be lived. Moving out of "victim" mode and realising that

getting into one's power is all that we need to fulfill one's own needs and requirements.