Twin Flame Separation: Heal to crack the deal with the divine counterpart

How many of us have hopelessly and relentlessly chased our divine counterparts? The answer to this question is,most of us have. Now,the fact that the twin flame connection is an on-going dynamic and journey of healing, we as twin souls have to clear out the baggage of all the hurt and pain carried on from past lives and achieve self-love. This brings me to another question, "How much more do I need to heal? These sort of questions create a trigger in the mind that is clouded with doubts and insecurities in the mind of the chaser. The sole reason why we are stuck in this endless loop, that is constantly driving the chaser to chase, is due to the fact that the chaser has not completed his/her inner healing work. So what is inner healing work? Inner healing work is clearing all questions regarding worthiness of receiving unconditional love and furthermore, breaking away from negative perceptions of self. The focus shift has to be on oneself rather than the runner. The reason for the separation is majorly due to lack of self worthiness, self love which forms cyclical patterns of running and chasing between the divine masculine and the divine feminine.

Just about recently, while conversing with a friend, who is more or less going through a similar relationship dynamic, gave me a piece of advice that highly resonated with me. She communicated that, "Komal, you need to take your power back and deprive your counterpart of any energy exchange". Furthermore,she added,"Komal,you do not love yourself enough,hence you are chasing unavailable people". What an Eureka moment that was! This is exactly what I have been trying to work on since the past 5 years of working on loving myself the way that I am.

Since childhood,we are taught to be truthful to others and all our relationships.Paradoxically,we all lie to ourselves.Our brain is hardwired to avoid unpleasant truths,we all need to start accepting love and healing with others by being honest with our own selves.Our pre-conditioning has been so strong on concepts such as "People are out there to get us"; "There is no true love in this world" enables us to harden our heart,build walls around ourselves and shuns vulnerability.The root cause is lack of self-love. Bringing in my experience of feeling inadequate to love. During the early years of my childhood, I was ragged by classmates for not being a certain body type, of having a certain level of intellectuality,by having a certain social status would result in receiving unconditional love and being accepted by the society. Classic case scenario of toxic living environments and parental conditioning have resulted in a blocked heart chakra. This has been mirrored onto my twin flame connection and hence, my divine counterpart disapproves verbalizing affection as he does not comprehend a receptive unconditional loving relationship due to his family dynamics which is a toxic environment for him. Therefore,the massive blocks in communication and silent treatment is what I have received from him in these past 5 years.

The only way to overcome this separation and feeling inadequate is by shifting my focus on my inner journey, raising my vibration of self love and not chasing my counterpart in the 3D plane. It is immensely heart wrenching to receive this treatment of no communication and being shut out from the other half of your soul,but after my 3.5 years of research on this concept, the separation of us,twin flames is for the greater good;to become a better version of oneself.