Quite often,we hear statements such as "It is not your job to fix them". How harsh it might sound, it is the bitter truth. A research report from the University of Indianapolis(2015), Do Women Give in More? discusses the landscape of Gender Giving in relationships,states that 43.6% women give in more in a relationships compared to men having just a 31.5%.
A person's learned behavioural pattern is projected onto others unconsciously. Learned behaviour is a pre-programmed familial and societal belief system. Now,when twin flames collide,an alchemical fire sparks that burns down all projective love ideals to create room for an unconditional love experience.
So how does projection in relationships work? Intergenerational family trauma is a main leading role player in projection in relationships. Family dynamics magnify patterns such as being dismissive avoidant or even being anxiously attached, the two named behavioral patterns on relationships spectrum. Now,this pattern is to be understood,as both are equally unhealthy that creates a flesh level conflict between twin flames which results in an intellectual conflict that turns into mirroring of insecurities that are to be fixed within oneself and progress with healing.
Projections between twin flames is a defensive mechanism which is clearly destructive where one disowns what we feel and opt to believe that others are responsible for our emotions and behaviours we experience. An existing deep lack, at a subconscious level lingers which causes a desperate need to seek love from the outside. Seeing through the lens of Jungian's psychology, rejection pushes individuals to navigate the depths of one's psyche, challenging them to integrate disparate aspects of oneself for inner union and wholeness within self.
That being the case, twin flame is a journey and not a destination brining in experiences and feelings to work through. Choosing humility and taking responsibilities for one's own feelings can heal ourselves and dissolve the pain away.
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