Mother Wounds- Unblock the Sacral Chakra to operate with kindness

What occurs in patriarchal families; a range of adversities and challenges between mothers and daughters which are rampant and not openly spoken about. The mother wound is the pain of being a woman which is passed down through generations of dysfunctional coping mechanisms used to process that ingrained pain. To put it briefly, when a daughter internalises her mother's unconscious beliefs, attitudes,values and standards into her own identity, she unconsciously lives the pattern of taught values. This manifests into developing a critical mindset of self and poor regulation of emotions. Mother wounds have a significant impact on the sacral chakra; as it causes a complete dissociation from one's emotions and sexuality. A healthy sacral chakra shows up as a healthy emotional life, stable relationship bonding and a balanced expression of own's needs and wants. Contrarily,a blocked sacral chakra causes difficulties in forging healthy relationships and poor expression of one's creativity. Additionally, once the sacral chakra is blocked,the adults struggle with body image issues and have severe difficulty accepting their sexuality. Another paramount impact of a mother wound that reflects into relationships is codependency. Psychologist Nicole Le Pera; addressed this issue by quoting "Mothers and their relationships reflect patterns of codependency that unconsciously projected their pain onto their lineage and taught children the same modelling mothers were taught. This is how cycles are created."

This piqued thought brings me to discuss the next segment of my article which is how do mother wounds show up in our daily lives. Some pertinent ways are discussed below:

#1 Abandoning one's own authenticity.

#2 Sacrificing one's needs for others.

#3 Craving for constant validation.

#4 Overlooking one's own power and potential.

#5 Inability to practice self-care and ask help when one needs it.

#6 Constantly questioning one's self worth.

#7 Feeling discomfort and self guilt-tripping when one spends time or money on self care.

Don't we all want to live with authentic expression in our lives? Healing from a mother wound is a start by shining light on the shadow aspects and recognizing the agony by honouring one's feelings wholly. Few ways in which mother wounds can be healed are:

#1 Getting touch with and embracing one's own emotions.

#2 Exploring creative expression; art,music,dance,drama and writing.

#3 Fostering self forgiveness and accepting for being real rather than perfect.

#4 Embracing vulnerabilities and celebrating one's strengths.

#5 Reparenting one's inner child ny being gentle and affectionate with oneself.

#6 Managing clear boundaries of give and take in relationships.

#7 Asking for support from others, when needed, without guilt and shame.

The last thing any of us wants to do is pass on the damage our mothers did to us. Hence processing grief and healing is the way to reparent oneself and parent our children "woundless". Instilling kindness and authenticity in daily relationships is an upward curve towards healing.